There is a big problem in the church. It’s almost a pandemic. It is people placing their ministerial assignments over their matrimonial responsibilities.
If you are placing ministry over your family, come close, let me tell you something: you are not spiritual! You are perhaps carnal and not as scripturally intelligent as you think.
Why are you feeding the desire for “success” in ministry, and the need to be in people’s good books, at the expense of your commitment to your spouse and children?
Any ministry work that brings tension to your home and makes you leave unhappiness behind when you go for ministry has no pattern in Christ.
Don’t mix it up. Your personal relationship with God is different from ministry work. The order should be: your relationship with God, your family, then ministry.
Orderliness at the home front is what 1 Tim. 3:1-16 emphasizes. It’s not all about the “anointing.”
If you discover that you so much desire to give yourself to ministry without minding what happens to your God-given home, or you see that the marriage covenant means less to you than your ministerial assignment, then don’t marry. Just give yourself to the ministry like Apostle Paul (and that’s not a bad idea at all).
You cannot want to be married like Apostle Peter and do ministry like Apostle Paul!
There’s a way to do ministry as a married person!
Carry your spouse along. Learn from Aquila and Priscilla (1 Cor. 16:19). Anywhere Priscilla was mentioned in the Bible, Aquila was mentioned. Their home was given to the ministry work, yet there was no tension in their marriage. A great example to buttress the point that there is a way to do ministry as married people.
Learn from Christ and the Church.As much as Christ loves the lost souls such that He died for them, He is working with the Church—His Bride—to reach them.
You cannot love God’s people more than Christ does, you can’t love lost souls more than Christ does, you can’t love the business more than the business owner.
I know you are zealous, but be zealous unto good works. The good works start from home. Charity begins at home.
Go back home. Your wife/husband (and kids) is not happy with you! Yes, going back home could be literal or figurative..
